Weekend Quiz

Thanks to Facebook, I know what sort of pizza I am, what my mental age is according to the sundae I put together, and which Disney Prince I am meant to marry. But I do know myself, all the light and darkness of my fears and hopes. While talking to a friend yesterday about self-awareness, I suggested that therapy helps you know who you are and I think that often people don’t pursue therapy because they don’t like what they see in themselves.

So how about we do a quiz. The therapy quiz to help you find out about yourself. I will put my answers down to show you it’s not so hard and then you can do yours. you don’t have to share it with anyone, but it is a great step to understanding your fine self.

Happy Saturday peeps. You’re all ace!

  1. What are my strengths?
  2. What are my short-term and long-term goals?
  3. Who matters most to me?
  4. What am I ashamed of?
  5. What do I like to do for fun?
  6. What new activities are I willing to try?
  7. What am I worried about?
  8. What are my values? What do I believe in?
  9. If I could have one wish it would be….?
  10. Where do I feel safest?
  11. What or who gives me comfort?
  12. If I wasn’t afraid I would…?
  13. What is my proudest accomplishment?
  14. What is my biggest failure?
  15. Am I a night owl or an early bird?
  16. What do I like about my job? What do I dislike?
  17. What does my inner critic tell me?
  18. What do I do to show myself self compassion and self care?
  19. Am I am introvert or extrovert?
  20. What am I passionate about?
  21. What is my happiest memory?
  22. What do my dreams tell me?
  23. What is my favorite book, movie, music, food, colour, baby animal?
  24. What am I grateful for?
  25. When I am feeling down, I like to…?
  26. I know I’m stressed when I…

And here are my answers:

  1. What are my strengths? Resilience, research, being an advocate for those who can’t advocate for themselves, problem solve, seeing clear strategies on moving forward.
  2. What are my short-term and long-term goals? Short term: Move house and get my daughter settled at University and son settled at school. Long term: Lose a fuck-ton of weight and look after myself.
  3. Who matters most to me? My family and friends, and dogs!
  4. What am I ashamed of? When I have been quick to judge and unkind.
  5. What do I like to do for fun? Scrounge op-shops and second-hand book stores, and find bargains!
  6. What new activities are I willing to try? I would like to start to ride a bike again. Haven’t ridden one since uni.
  7. What am I worried about? My kids and my sister.
  8. What are my values? What do I believe in? I value joy, family and culture. I believe in a holistic universe and the power of connection.
  9. If I could have one wish it would be….? That my sister gets through a tough time safely and with self- awareness and readiness to walk a new path.
  10. Where do I feel safest? When I am home on the sofa with a cup of tea by my side.
  11. What or who gives me comfort? My friends who have shown great love and compassion to me,  Fiona, Jonah, Senta, Andy, Dean, Dora, Rach, Ris, Anna, Et Al, my mum, Dave and my dogs.
  12. If I wasn’t afraid I would…? Kick ass!
  13. What is my proudest accomplishment? Professionally- transitioning to being a writer at age 38. Personally- raising kids who aren’t arseholes.
  14. What is my biggest failure? Putting weight back on after losing it. I know people think less of me since I’ve become a giant planet.
  15. Am I a night owl or an early bird? Early bird!
  16. What do I like about my job? What do I dislike? II love the when the idea comes, growing slowly in your mind and then seeing it in the printed form of a book in your hand. I dislike the process between these.
  17. What does my inner critic tell me? I am too old and my work is derivative.
  18. What do I do to show myself self compassion and self-care? I nap. I potter in the garden. I read poetry.
  19. Am I am introvert or extrovert? Used to be extrovert, becoming more introvert as I get older.
  20. What am I passionate about? Human rights.
  21. What is my happiest memory? I don’t have a particular one but I know the feeling when it’s happening.
  22. What do my dreams tell me? That I have a very active subconscious! Also, they often tell me when people are pregnant.
  23. What is my favorite book, movie, music, food, colour, baby animal? Book- Jane Eyre. Movie- To Catch a Thief. Music- Bach. Food- Greek food. Colour – French navy. Baby animal – elephant
  24. What am I grateful for? My health and my family and friends.
  25. When I am feeling down, I like to…? Watch dog rescue videos on Youtube.
  26. I know I’m stressed when I… Bite my nails and forget words when I’m speaking.

How To Live Well

  • Say no to things you don’t have or want to do by using the word “don’t”.  E.g. “I don’t go for after works drinks because I like to get home as soon as I can my kids.”
  • If more than one person says the same thing about you, then it’s true. Good and bad. Listen to them and accept or fix.
  • Understand that no one is looking at you, so wear the goddammed bikini.
  • Have good quality sheets and change them once a week. There are few things as comforting climbing into a bed made with freshly laundered sheets.
  • Accept that there is no such thing as perfect.
  • Have a flower in a vase somewhere in your house. A jam jar of gardenias or lavender or roses swiped from the park down the road, connect you to nature.
  • Let go of being the starter engine in all relationships. If a person wants to be a part of your life, they will make an obvious effort to do so. A phone call, a text can mean a lot. It also speaks volumes when they don’t make space. Let it go. It’s done. These things happen. People change. It’s okay. Send them love and let them go.
  • Don’t clean up your house for anyone but yourself.
  • Do the most shitty thing on your to-do- list, first. It’s a way of          un-constipating your day, so to speak.
  • Don’t be held back by what happened to you. You are the decision maker in that area. Not coping, then get some help. It’s not so hard and makes all the difference.
  • Know what your boundaries are. You can’t solve everything for everyone. Your job is to love the people in your life, and point them to an area of the world that might have some meaning for them, if you know of such a place. Otherwise, just love them.
  • Dance in the car. Dance in the kitchen. Dance on the living room rug. As Nietzsche said, “We should consider every day lost on which we have not danced at least once.”
  • Learn how to apologise and do it when you know you’re wrong.
  • Accept you’re not good at everything, and everything doesn’t need to be tried.
  • Don’t assume you know anything about anyone. If we heard everyone’s story, then I think we would be kinder to the people pushing and yelling and crying.
  • Be aware of the energy you bring into a room. Don’t be a Judy Moody. It’s so boring and you won’t be invited places.
  • Quit complaining. Nobody cares. Fix it or forget about it.
  • Read. Read whenever you can. Read books, and news, and blogs, and poems, and jokes and stories. This opens the mind and the heart.
  • Accept that there is no such thing as fair.
  • Don’t spend time with anyone who doesn’t make you feel amazing about yourself or hopeful about your future.
  • Be kind to yourself.
  • Be kind to others.
  • Be yourself.

Before I speak, I have something important to say.

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